Ten
With Melissa Gilbert
I grew up with Melissa.
Not literally, of course, but she and I are only a few years
apart in age, and I watched Little House
on The Prarie along with practically everyone else in the world as she
played a fictionalized version of Laura Ingalls with sassy aplomb and humor –
which she has in abundance. She’s tough, having grown up in show business,
raised in the heart of Los Angeles, and she takes no crap from anybody.
Everything she is has been earned – her resume, her creativity, her family, her
scars, and her accomplishments. None of it was handed to her, and I think if
anyone had tried, they’d have found the silver platter knocked forcibly to the
floor.
To say she’s had an impressive career is a woefully
inadequate description; all you have to do is go to IMDB and look at her
credits as an actor and producer and see the amazing phalanx of actors she’s
worked with and known all her life. She’s
also kinda badass, having taken on Hollywood politics and served as SAG
president from 2001-2005, and raised four decent, hardworking, functional
children.
Tough she is, and resilient, but she’s also one of the
kindest souls you’ll ever come across – unassuming, at ease with herself and
her fame without feeling any need to assert it in order to talk to you. She knows who she is, even if you don’t. But
if you take the time to listen, she’ll tell you who she is.
One
ARD: Okay, first things first: You got married! (to actor/director Timothy Busfield – “The
Fosters”, “The Client List”) One of the things I’ve always admired about
you is your complete fearlessness in love – or, at least, you seem fearless to
me. Do you feel that way about yourself?
MG: I’m pretty fearless in general.
Definitely fearless when it comes to love which, in the past, has gotten me
into some…well…let’s just call them unhealthy situations. Every love I’ve had
before now it seems I’ve twisted myself to be someone I’m not. Someone they
needed me to be. I think I was also afraid that if they saw the real me, warts
and all (not literally), they’d leave.
The relationship I had before Tim
was the best and, hopefully, final example. He liked me to dress a certain way,
so I did. He hated my perfume…a custom made scent I’ve worn for years, so I
stopped wearing it. He didn’t understand me politically or spiritually so I
shut those parts down...OH! And he didn’t like me without make-up, so I wore
make-up all the time.
My sweet husband came barreling
into my life exactly when I needed him. I had really grieved the last break-up.
I think it was because I was really done with the emotionally unavailable, man.
I was finished! Then this kind, brilliant, spiritual, politically liberal,
funny, sexy man was right in front of me. He brought me home, to me. I am so
comfortable and just happy, all of the time. It took nearly 50 years but I am
finally living in bliss and comfort.
Two
ARD: You’re a born-and-bred Angeleno, and you’ve up and moved to
Michigan! That had to be a fairly big
adjustment. What do you miss most about L.A., and what do you love most about
Michigan?
MG: Fearless, right? I leapt and the
net appeared. I knew this move to a small town was what we needed. We wanted a
quieter, pressure free life….and that is what we have here.
I miss nothing about LA except for
my family and girlfriends there. It’s actually easier to list what I don’t
miss; I don’t miss eating in a restaurant and everyone craning their heads to
see who just walked in. I don’t miss everyone talking about show business all
the freakin’ time. I don’t miss all of the women with the same lips, noses,
cheek s and boobs. I don’t miss the pressure to be unhealthily skinny. I don’t
miss the constantly unchanging weather. I don’t miss traffic and I really don’t
miss smog.
What I love most about Michigan is
that it’s everything LA isn’t.
Three
ARD: You and Bruce (Boxleitner,
her ex-husband) have one of the healthiest relationships I’ve seen after a
divorce – Hollywood or otherwise. It’s incredibly admirable, but it couldn’t
have been a cakewalk for either of you. How did you work that together, and
what decisions and priorities did you choose?
MG: Well, thank you for that. It
wasn’t easy. The beginning was incredibly wrenching and painful. I don’t want
to get into the why and how and stuff. I can tell you that after the initial
hurt began to dissipate, we made a conscious decision to remain loving toward
one another. I think Bruce really felt it when we mediated our divorce. No
lawyers, no fighting, in just a few hours. I proved to him that I wasn’t out to
ruin him financially and take his kids away and all that.
We actually went out to lunch
after our mediation session and really had a nice talk. We continue to raise
our youngest son together. We were a big part of each other’s lives for twenty
years. That can’t just go away. He’s a dear friend to me. We are really good at
being friends. That won’t end ever.
Four
ARD: Little House is
playing on a television somewhere in the world even as I ask this question:
What do you remember most about your first day on the show, and what do you
remember most about your last?
MG: First day, Michael Landon putting
cigarettes out in the palm of his ski gloves and then putting the butts in his
pocket until he could get to a trash can.
The last day, I remember feeling
like someone had died. I remember crying uncontrollably off and on, all day.
The whole cast and crew were doing the same.
Five
ARD: How close do you feel to Laura Ingalls? Is she removed a bit
from the Laura you played, or do you feel close to the real one more? Have you had an opportunity to see her homes
– I’d love to see Rocky Ridge Farm.
MG: I didn’t get to Laura’s homesteads
until I went on tour with the musical. I have always felt close to her. I think
as a kid it was way more subconscious. A few years back at the museum in Walnut
Grove, I think, they took me back into a special vault and they took one of her
nightgowns out for me to see. They let me touch it. It’s kind of a woo-woo
thing but I swear I felt her there, in my heart and brain. Like this flood of
who she really was infused me at that moment. It made me cry.
Six
ARD: You and Alison (Arngrim, who played Nellie Oleson) have been thick and fast since
you were kids. I like to imagine you get a lot of double-takes when you’re
spotted sharing lunch with each other instead of throwing it. What’s your
favorite way to screw with people’s heads?
MG: People
screw with their own heads enough when we are together. When we were kids and
we’d go places to hang out, folks would walk up to us and put me behind them,
shielding me from Alison. It always made me laugh.
Seven
ARD: You grew up with and still know
–well, just about everyone, it seems, in the business. Who do you not know that you would invite to
dinner, and what would you cook for them?
MG: Ryan
Gosling…and I’d make him whatever he wanted….naked except for an
apron…Seriously, I think having Judy Dench to dinner would be a kick and I’d
make her a traditional English roast dinner.
Eight
ARD: Your book, A Prairie Tale, was a bestseller – I loved it, by the way – and now
you’re about to publish a cookbook. Are
they your own recipe creations, or a collection of yours and family/friends?
Comfort food, fancy food…gluten free food? I’ve heard you’re a fabulous cook.
MG: Ah yes.
It’s more than a cookbook, it’s also part scrapbook filled with memories and
behind the scenes pictures from Little House. The recipes are all mine. All
comfort foods. It’s called My Prairie
Cookbook. It will be released around the 40th anniversary of the
first airing of the show.
Nine
ARD: Recently you’ve been working on a
movie that deals with bipolar disorder (I myself am bipolar II), and I’m really
looking forward to seeing it. Can you talk a little about your character and
the story, and how your perspective on bipolar disorder was affected as a
result of the story?
MG: I can’t
really talk about it much because I don’t know what is going to happen with it
or when. It’s a really tiny independent feature...really tiny. It’s called One
Song. Sally Kellerman and Mike Farrell play my parents in it. I play the black
sheep of the family. In and out of facilities to deal with bi-polar disorder.
I come
home unannounced and off meds but that part isn’t revealed until a big family
dinner where my character comes in and just wrecks the meal.
I did
extensive research. Watched hours of documentaries..my favorite is Stephen Fry’s.
I just love him. I also watched every film that had a character in it that
either had bi=polar disorder or some undiagnosed iteration of it. I wanted to
watch other actors’ interpretations. See how deep they went or not. I loved
Richard Gere in Mr. Jones, and of course Jessica Lange in Frances!
Ten
ARD: Now that you’re in Michigan and
out of the Hollywood orbit, so to speak, what’s the plan? You’re not retiring,
are you?
MG: Oh hell
no!! Tim and I have a film in development here… a couple actually. We also have
a series in the process of being written that we will likely pitch next year. We
are also on the verge of starting a theater company here in our little town. We
have loads of plans. Don’t know that I’ll ever retire but, in about 10 years,
I’m going to let my hair go as white as it wants.
That’ll
be me…the lady with the long white braid down her back walking from her home to
her office to her theater to do yet another show, while the latest film they
produced is in post at their post production facility
down the street…stopping to get a chai at the coffee house and make out with
her husband.
Of
course, I will be followed by my dogs….that will never change.
Melissa's book, A Prairie Tale, can be purchased at Amazon
Kiki may be headed for trouble. 
